A man $X$ has $7$ friends, $4$ of them are ladies and $3$ are men. His wife $Y$ also has $7$ friends, $3$ of them are ladies and $4$ are men. Assume $X$ and $Y$ have no common friends. Then the total number of ways in which $X$ and $Y$ together can throw a party inviting $3$ ladies and $3$ men, so that $3$ friends of each of $X$ and $Y$ are in this party is: